October 29, 2008

October 29, 2008
Last week seems so unreal now. We are feeling like we definitely made the right decision. The Dr. that examined the baby even emailed me this letter.They do not have hippa in Russia!!!!!!I know the right family will adopt this baby.
Dear Lynn and Scott!

It was very nice to meet such nice and kind people as you. I heard from S------- you decided to come back after some time. This is a wise decision and I hope, that time you will meet a nice little girl. You have a proverb-ì If change happens, it is for the betterî (something like that)- and it is the case. As for me, I am happy, that you didnít take the blind decision to adopt O------, who, definitely, makes a good impression now, but it is only now.. Her diagnosis, obviously, must be taken into consideration for the future. If she is adopted by a different family- and I hope she will be adopted- she, herself, will definitely benefit from it as far as adoption improves some negative features of FAS. But the family will pay a very high price for this adoption in the future.

At the moment, I am preparing for a next course of lectures for adopting parents. If some photos of ------a remained in your camera, please, send them to me. There are very few real photos of classical FAS even in the Web. I want to inform parents about the syndrome to help them to make informed decisions about adoption.

If you donít want me do demonstrate the photos or you deleted them from the camera- I will certainly understand and accept this.

Sincerely yours

Dr Oleg Togoyev