It is amazing some of the comments we have gotten about our adoption.They are mainly 98% from people we do not know!!!! I have gotten do you know how many russian babies have fetal alchol syndrome blah, blah, blah. I have let these comments roll off me. I have come to realize adopted children are loved no less than bioliogical children. The mother bear instinct is alive and well in me, with Kati who I have never met!!I have realized even if you are not biologically responsible for a baby you still are given basic human instincts to parent one!!!I just need to make sure I don't become hyper sensetive and read into all comments in the name of protecting Kati!I am going to pardon people's dumb comments and advice!!!!!I am also going to think more before I give advice to someone whose shoes I have not walked in.edit
Sunday, November 1, 2009
Today I had Amy(our babysitter)come watch the boys and I went to our adoption agency and got paperwork notarized. It was alot of stuff but alot was accomplished.My friend Laura let her boys come over and play and it was so cool to think I have known Griffen and Wesley since they were babies.They are now 11 and 8.Wesley has a twin sister Grace.Laura has been very supportive of this adoption and I hope she knows how much I appreciate it.I have really made alot of changes in my life(i think it is God getting us ready for this journey)and it is nice to have friends that can let you change and not let that hurt the friendship.I hope I will be the friend when I think my friend may have lost her mind know that God deals with us all the way He needs to and we should not get in the way or judge someone elses journey. I know I have been guilty of that and thought I knew all the answers in life and I have come to the conclusion God Will not be put in a box.He has a plan for all of us and we need to jump when he says jump.I think the hard part is being sure it is him and not us.I think he will always confirm everything he is saying by the bible ,people,or circumstances.I don't understand why sometimes he is so clear and then at times he seems like he does not exist.It seems like when I think i may become agnostic he is there!!!Sometimes it is hard in the South to truly walk a life that is authenic because we grew up knowing in our head bible stuff but it is when it is in our hearts mixed with faith that it become powerful and able to change lives.I don't want to just be a "head" christian!!!That is WAY too boring!!!! edit
Today was the first real day of summer.The boys woke up at the crack of dawn and we went for a special breakfeast at Crestline Bagel.I am really so glad we have no school and can just hang out. I realized today how much easier my life has become so I know Kati will be here soon!!!!!I went to a store (Once Upon A time) and ordered her furniture on Friday.It is awesome!!!This was so much fun.I went ahead and even got her big girl bed. I am going back on Thursday to get her linens.We have decided to make a room for her where the playroom is upstairs and move the boys playroom downstairs. This makes sense and will be the easiest way to make it work.We have got to notarize some paperwork and get it to our dossier specialist and she will take it from there(I hope). I did hear that d.h.r sent our homestudy on to homeland security and all was approved. They will now issue us our form and that should be done in 4 weeks and then the dossier will be sent to Russia.Then the Real wait begins.I still know God is in the very center of this process and can't wait to see how this all plays out. It is amazing one day I will be so filled with faith and the very next I feel like Kati will never get here.It seems like when I stop obsessing I will get news and when I stay on the computer trying to find info I just get more desperate.The boys being home is going to take care of that!!!!!!!edit
We went and had our fingerprints done for immigration and I have to say that we were scared.The staff was nice but so serious. We could not even bring our cell phones into the building.The staff told us were to sit and out of 100 empty chairs they told us what two chairs we were to occupy!!! We obeyed!! We will now complete the dossier and wait for the form to come back in the mail that will let Kati into the country as a citizen of the U.S.A. I have to say today I have hit a wall emotionally.(I don't know why) I need to let myself relax and enjoy the process.
I think I am about to start on the nursery now . The boys last day of school is Friday.(I call it black Friday)!! We seriously will have fun this summer NOT doing homework and waking up at the crack of dawn. . Andy and Sid are playing all-stars and this is fun but a bit much!! This year I am going to have a better attitude.Scott is coaching Sid 's team so I will be with Andy . Both boys are playing at Mountain Brook so that is awesome!!edit
 | Dossier Instructions May 20, 2008 We got the instructions for putting our dossier together. We have to have 2 aposotilled and one notarized. This is ALOT of paperwork. Yesterday I felt completely overwelmed and wondered how I will get it all together.Today I feel alot better and realize I need to just take it one step at a time. I realize God's timing is perfect and he will give us everything we need to finish this adoption.When I give it over alot of the burden is lifted. I freak out when I think Kati is in a orphanage and there is not one thing that I can do. I have always been the type to find a way to make things happen (that has gotten me in trouble in the past), and to have no control is a daily struggle.As things move on it seems to be a bigger struggle!!! I need to settle in myself that if I truly believe God is in control that he has and will protect Kati until we can bring her home.Alot of people want to know if she has been picked out. I think our adoption agency knows when babies are coming off the registry. (I don't know that for a fact). I do know I have a love for her that is just as strong as the love I have for Andy,Sid and Gray. I know it is hard and exhausting being a Mom. I appreciate my Mom more than ever and realize being a Mom is the hardest job ever!!!!!! edit |
Today we got our appointment with homeland security to have our fingerprints done for our application for advance processing for orphan petition!!!! This is great because we were not expecting it for another week. Our appointment is 5/21/2008.To get our form back will be another 3-4 weeks after fingerprints and then the paperwork goes to Russia.We are moving along.Things are really going smooth and fast.The summer is here and Andy and Sid are playing all-stars so time will pass quickly.edit
    | Mothers Day May 11, 2008 I was in the bed this morning with coffee and presents given to me by my awesome family! I love the way my husband and boys love to celebrate!!!We started the day laughing and opening presents. I got earrings and a hat for summer. We then went to church and my parents and brother went with us. After church we went to a jazz brunch ,it was awesome. Today I have been thinking about the sabbath and God's orginal intention of it.God wanted us to stop and rest and celebrate . Life goes by too fast and it is hard in our culture to stop and celebrate our family and the passing of each milestone.God let the Isrealites be taken into captivity because they did not stop and celebrate all God had done for them.I want to make a conscious effort to stop and celebrate consistantly and to be thankful to God who is the orginal celebrator!!!!!!Next mothers day Kati will be with us and the celebration will continue.edit |
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Posted by: Laura on May 28, 2008 at 06:43 P.M.